As many of you know, I do the whole online dating “thing”. Â Over the years, I’ve been on numerous websites; Socialnet, AOL dating, Match, eHarmony, Craigslist, Hot or Not, Plenty of Fish, OK Cupid, Yahoo Personals, and others I’m sure I’m forgetting. Â Overall, I’ve probably met at least 200 people from online in person, and communicated with almost 1,000 online. Â I know I’m FAR from being perfect, but boy, I’ve met some really interesting people…
When I first started in 1999, digital cameras were expensive and low resolution (cameras that were 640 x 480 [a third of a megapixel], ran almost a thousand dollars), and scanners were not common place. Â Photos were few and far between, so if I was lucky, I would see one photo of a girl before getting the opportunity to meet in person. Â As a result, I had to go with a description of what the girl looked like. Â This was about half as effective as a police sketch. Â So my first 10 or 20 meetings were often met with utter disappointment, as a low-resolution, blurry, often old photo was standard, if I got one at all. Â Of those first meetings, only two girls were really truthful about their appearance; one I went on a couple dates with, the other I dated for a month–but both had issues I just didn’t want to deal with…
…so 10 years later, and hundreds of meetings later, I’m still refining my online dating strategy. Â Lots has changed since I started; there are a lot more dating sites out there, and there are a lot more photos to see. Â Mind you, a lot of people have learned to Photochop (not a typo) their photos, so you never know who is really representing themselves truthfully, and the matching schemes have been a little more refined.
What hasn’t changed, however, is people’s propensity to lie about themselves.
Whether it be height, weight, hair, complexion, education, career, bra size, personality, self-image, or whatever you can think of, it’s all subject to scrutiny. Â I’ve become somewhat adept at figuring out who lies and who doesn’t, and who has personality issues and who fakes it.
Maybe, just maybe, I’ll tell some stories of some of my more…interesting…online dating experiences…from the overly aggressive, to the completely psycho. Â There are lots of fun stories… Â You let me know if you want to hear them. Â Most are funny in retrospect, and often graphic. Â So…yeah. Â Let me know.


